Here is an interesting article from The New York Times by Amy Chua and Jed Rubenfeld about race, immigration and success. They identify three embedded-not innate traits which can lead to your child’s success.
“The fact that groups rise and fall this way punctures the whole idea of ‘model minorities’ or that groups succeed because of innate, biological differences. Rather there are cultural forces at work.
It turns out that for all their diversity, the strikingly successful groups in America today share three traits that, together, propel success. The first is a superiority complex– a deep-seated belief in their exceptionality. The second appears to be the opposite– insecurity, a feeling that you or what you’ve done is not enough. The third is impulse control.”
Success happens, not by instilling only one of the three traits, all three must be present– and in America, specifically well-off white families, falsely think they can drive their child to success by constant confirmation, such as, “You’re amazing. Mommy and Daddy never want you to worry about a thing” (NYT.) Rather, success is based not solely, but partially, on some possible threat of failure, or of failing to live up to some standard prerequisite.