In general, I’m not huge on reading parenting books. I think people rely too much on them and forget that they are human beings who have natural instincts for these things. I’ve looked over and read, what I consider to be a fair amount of parenting books, (yes, sometimes reading parenting books for my employers is part of my job) there are a few problems I find with most parenting books.
1. Most parenting books consist of long monologues with little information.
2. It’s nearly impossible to know what books to get, because there are hundreds out there, all claiming to be experts on the same topic.
3. Most parenting books consist of long monologues with little information… OH, I already said this?
I might take for granted that I know what I know about child rearing, safety, developmental stages, etc. because of all my years of experience, (I should also thank my mom for her amazing educated advice) but I do realize some people go into parenting with no experience, thus making it a little scarier and overwhelming.
It would be hard at this point to trace back all the moments when I learned all of the valuable information I take for granted now, such as, that babies have “sleep signals” to cue us for bedtime, that biting babies nails when they’re infants is easier than using finger nail clippers, that letting your baby run around without a diaper for a few hours is the best way to get rid of a rash…. you get the point. At some point I did learn all of this, there was a moment when it all clicked, and I learned this through experience, not from a book.
All of this being said: For people with little to no experience, and without a ‘model’ parent for which to ask questions I realize it can be comforting, and informative to read a book….or twelve. My personal opinion is that we (Americans) over-read on parenting. So far a few books I would recommend are listed below, keep in mind these books for the most part fit into my “parenting” style, or they are simply information based.
Baby and Toddler 411 by Denise Fields and Ari Brown: These are 2 different books. The books have factual information about your child’s developmental stages they also have products like car seats, discussed and rated. I rarely look at this for developmental stages but I have referenced it when choosing important products, like car seats and high chairs for my bosses. I like the books because they are simple and to the point, you don’t have to read 12 pages to find the one sentence of actually useful information you wanted about diaper rashes.
Bringing up Bebe by Pamela Druckerman: A great book about an American woman in Paris, and her discovery, and conversion into French parenting. When I read this book I was shocked by how similar my “parenting style” is to the French parenting style. The book helped me to feel more confident in my choices and gave me some more useful tips on sleep and eating. A great book for someone who is unsure of what parenting style they want to go with!
Baby-led weening by Gill Rapley and Tracey Murkett: For those who are interested in, or want to know more about baby-led weening.